Unlike overt narcissism, which involves grandiosity and overt aggression, covert narcissism is subtle and passive-aggressive. Covert narcissists often present as vulnerable or self-deprecating, masking their manipulative tendencies. This behaviour enables their own esteem needs to be met. In relationships with men, this can manifest as the abuser portraying the man as their "saviour," creating an emotional dependency that feels flattering at first but turns controlling. Signs